Best Abuse Self-Help Books
Here you will get Best Abuse Self-Help Books For you.This is an up-to-date list of recommended books.
1. Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Author: by Lundy Bancroft
Published at: Berkley Books; Reprint edition (September 2, 2003)
In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancrofta counselor who specializes in working with abusive menuses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.
He says he loves you.So… Why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling menand change your life. In Why Does He Do That?
You will learn about: The early warning signs of abuse The nature of abusive thinking Myths about abusers Ten abusive personality types The role of drugs and alcohol What you can fix, and what you can’t And how to get out of an abusive relationship safelyThis is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men.
Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.Jay G.Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
2. A Child Called It: One Child's Courage to Survive
Author: by Dave Pelzer
Published at: Health Communications Inc; Reissue edition (September 1, 1995)
This book chronicles the unforgettable account of one of the most severe child abuse cases in California history. It is the story of Dave Pelzer, who was brutally beaten and starved by his emotionally unstable, alcoholic mother: a mother who played tortuous, unpredictable games-games that left him nearly dead.
He had to learn how to play his mother’s games in order to survive because she no longer considered him a son, but a slave; and no longer a boy, but an “it.” Dave’s bed was an old army cot in the basement, and his clothes were torn and raunchy.
When his mother allowed him the luxury of food, it was nothing more than spoiled scraps that even the dogs refused to eat. The outside world knew nothing of his living nightmare. He had nothing or no one to turn to, but his dreams kept him alive-dreams of someone taking care of him, loving him and calling him their son.
3. The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Revised Edition
Author: by Alice Miller
Published at: Basic Books; 3rd edition (January 1, 1997)
This bestselling book examines childhood trauma and the enduring effects it has on an individual’s management of repressed anger and pain. Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound book has provided millions of readers with an answer-and has helped them to apply it to their own lives.
Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents’ expectations and win their “love.” Alice Miller writes, “When I used the word ‘gifted’ in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way.
I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb…. Without this ‘gift’ offered us by nature, we would not have survived.” But merely surviving is not enough.
The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.
4. Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Smoking Without Willpower – Incudes Quit Vaping: The best-selling quit smoking method updated for the 21st century
Author: by Allen Carr
Published at: Arcturus Publishing Limited; Pap/Com edition (November 1, 2019)
THE BRAND-NEW UPGRADE OF THE WORLD’S BEST-SELLING STOP SMOKING BOOK OF ALL TIME. This book is the most up-to-date, cutting-edge, best-practice version of Allen Carr’s Easyway method. It now includes advice on vaping, cannabis, JUUL, self-harm & anxiety, the dopamine issue, and more advice about habitual triggers.
Through following this method, you will not only be set free from your smoking addiction but you will also find it easy and even enjoyable to quit. Without using willpower, aids, substitutes, or gimmicks Without gaining weight Without suffering anxiety, depression, or unpleasant withdrawal symptoms This book is designed to help busy people, who appreciate clear no-nonsense guidance.
Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Quit Smoking gives you a structured, easy-to-follow method for quitting quickly, painlessly, and immediately. What people say about Allen Carr’s Easyway method: “Allen Carr’s international bestseller… Has helped countless people quit.” Time Out New York “I read this book and quit smoking instantly” Nikki Glaser “The Allen Carr program was nothing short of a miracle.” Anjelica Huston “It was such a revelation that instantly I was freed from my addiction.” Sir Anthony Hopkins “His skill is in removing the psychological dependence.” The Sunday Times
5. Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
Author: by Dr. Karyl McBride Ph.D.
Published at: Atria Books; Reprint edition (September 8, 2009)
From experienced family therapist Dr. Karyl McBride, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Is an essential guide to recovery for women with selfish, emotionally abusive, and toxic mothersdesigned to help daughters reclaim their lives. The first book for daughters who have suffered the abuse of narcissistic, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough?
Provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life. Drawing on more than two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women’s health and hundreds of interviews with suffering daughters, Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this emotional abuse and create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.
Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness.
6. Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People
Author: by Jackson MacKenzie
Published at: Berkley; Expanded ed. edition (September 1, 2015)
From the author of Whole Again comes a significantly expanded edition of Psychopath Freecontaining new chapters, updated content, and real survivor experiencesthat will help you recover from emotionally abusive relationships with narcissists, sociopaths, and other toxic people. Have you ever been in a relationship with a psychopath?
Chances are, even if you did, you would never know it. Psychopaths are cunning charmers and master manipulators, to the point where you start to accept the most extreme behaviors as normal… Even if it hurts you. All around us, every single day, human beings devoid of empathy are wreaking havoc and destroying lives in the coldest, most heartless ways imaginable.
In constant pursuit of money, sex, influence, or simple entertainment, psychopaths will do whatever it takes to gain power over others. They hide behind a veil of normalcy, arranging their friends and partners like pawns in a game of chess.
Using false praise and flattery to get what they want, they can lure any unsuspecting target into a relationship. Once hooked, their charming promises spin into mind games and psychological torture. Victims are left devastated and confused, unable to recognizeor even put into wordsthe nightmare that just took place.
7. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence–From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror
Author: by Judith Lewis Herman
Published at: Basic Books; 1R edition (July 7, 2015)
In this groundbreaking book, a leading clinical psychiatrist redefines how we think about and treat victims of trauma. A “stunning achievement” that remains a “classic for our generation.” (Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., author of The Body Keeps the Score).
Trauma and Recovery is revered as the seminal text on understanding trauma survivors. By placing individual experience in a broader political frame, Harvard psychiatrist Judith Herman argues that psychological trauma is inseparable from its social and political context. Drawing on her own research on incest, as well as a vast literature on combat veterans and victims of political terror, she shows surprising parallels between private horrors like child abuse and public horrors like war.
Hailed by the New York Times as “one of the most important psychiatry works to be published since Freud,” Trauma and Recovery is essential reading for anyone who seeks to understand how we heal and are healed.
8. Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect
Author: by Jonice Webb
Published at: Morgan James Publishing; 9.1.2012 edition (October 1, 2012)
Running on Empty is the first self-help book about Emotional Neglect: an invisible force from your childhood which you can’t see, but may be affecting you profoundly to this day. It is about what didn’t happen in your childhood, what wasn’t said, and what cannot be remembered.
Do you sometimes feel as if you’re just going through the motions in life? Are you good at looking and acting as if you’re fine, but secretly feel lonely and disconnected? Perhaps you have a fine life and are good at your work, but somehow it’s just not enough to make you happy.
If so, you are not alone. The world is full of people who have an innate sense that something is wrong with them. Who feel they live on the outside looking in, but have no explanation for their feeling and no way to put it into words.
Who blame themselves for not being happier. If you are one of these people, you may fear that you are not connected enough to your spouse, or that you don’t feel pleasure or love as profoundly as others do. Perhaps when you do experience strong emotions, you have difficulty understanding or tolerating them.
9. The Gift of Fear : Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
Author: by Gavin De Becker
Published at: Little, Brown and Company; 1st edition (June 1, 1997)
Protect yourself by learning how to trust and act on your instincts with the “empowering” #1 bestseller from personal safety expert Gavin de Becker (Boston Globe). A carjacker lurking in a shopping mall parking lot. An abusive husband pounding on the door.
A disgruntled employee brandishing a gun. These days, no one is safe from the specter of violence. But according to Gavin de Becker, everyone can feel safer, act safer, be safer – if they learn how to listen to their own sixth sense about danger.
De Becker has made a career of protecting people and predicting violent behavior. His firm handles security for many of the leading figures in Hollywood and Silicon Valley, and his computerized risk-assessment system helps analyze threats to members of Congress and the Supreme Court.
Now, in this unprecedented guide, de Becker shares his expertise with everyone. Covering all the dangerous situations people typically face – street crime, domestic abuse, violence in the workplace – de Becker provides real-life examples and offers specific advice on restraining orders, self-defense, and more.
10. Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
Author: by Shannon Thomas LCSW
Published at: MAST Publishing House (August 25, 2016)
Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and places of worship. The cryptic nature of psychological abuse involves repetitious mind games played by one individual or a group of people. Psychological abuse leaves no bruises.
There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse. Healing from Hidden Abuse walks the reader through each of the six recovery stages researched and developed by the author.
The stages are Despair, Education, Awakening, Boundaries, Restoration, and Maintenance. A guided Personal Reflections journal is included in the back of the book to help the reader go deeper in their application of the six stages of recovery. The journal can be used individually or in a small group setting.
11. The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook: Healing From Emotional Abuse
Author: by Amy Marlow-MaCoy LPC
Published at: Rockridge Press; Workbook edition (February 18, 2020)
Healing from gaslighting starts with understanding itGaslighting is the practice of psychologically manipulating someone into questioning their own sanityand if you are reading this, you may be all-too familiar with this form of emotional abuse. The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook is a uniquely interactive method of rebuilding your self-esteem and allowing yourself to heal from an abusive relationship.
Through a process of explanation, advice, positive affirmations, daily logs, visualizations, and a journal-style workbook approach, you’ll understand gaslighting, the stages of recovery, and how to heal and move forward. It contains the most effective, evidence-based strategies for conquering gaslighting at work, with friends and family, and partners.
Recovery from gaslighting involves:Profile the abuserIdentifying and understanding abusive personality disorders is essential to the recovery process. You can do itGrow through a positive and actionable approach filled with exercises that provide relief and recovery from abuse. Well thought outInteractive exercises encourage thoughtful and comprehensive introspection, including a letter of commitment’ to yourself.
12. The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, 20th Anniversary Edition
Author: by Ellen Bass
Published at: William Morrow Paperbacks; Revised, Expanded, Anniversary edition (November 4, 2008)
Come to terms with your past while moving powerfully into the futureThe Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and a map of the healing journey to every woman who was sexually abused as a childand to those who care about her.
Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible. Weaving together personal experience with professional knowledge, the authors provide clear explanations, practical suggestions, and support throughout the healing process. Readers will feel recognized and encouraged by hundreds of moving first-person stories drawn from interviews and the authors’ extensive work with survivors, both nationally and internationally.
This completely revised and updated 20th anniversary edition continues to provide the compassionate wisdom the book has been famous for, as well as many new features:Contemporary research on trauma and the brainAn overview of powerful new healing tools such as imagery, meditation, and body-centered practicesAdditional stories that reflect an even greater diversity of survivor experiencesThe reassuring accounts of survivors who have been healing for more than twenty yearsThe most comprehensive, up-to-date resource guide in the fieldInsights from the authors’ decades of experienceCherished by survivors, and recommended by therapists and institutions everywhere, The Courage to Heal has often been called the bible of healing from child sexual abuse.
13. The Lost Boy: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family
Author: by Dave Pelzer
Published at: Health Communications; Revised edition (August 1, 1997)
Imagine a young boy who has never had a loving home. His only possesions are the old, torn clothes he carries in a paper bag. The only world he knows is one of isolation and fear. Although others had rescued this boy from his abusive alcoholic mother, his real hurt is just begining – he has no place to call home.
This is Dave Pelzer’s long-awaited sequel to A Child Called “It”. In The Lost Boy, he answers questions and reveals new adventures through the compelling story of his life as an adolescent. Now considered an F-Child (Foster Child), Dave is moved in and out of five different homes.
He suffers shame and experiences resentment from those who feel that all foster kids are trouble and unworthy of being loved just because they are not part of a “real” family. Tears, laughter, devastation and hope create the journey of this little lost boy who searches desperately for just one thing – the love of a family.
14. Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence
Author: by Tanya Selvaratnam
Published at: Harper (February 23, 2021)
Award-winning filmmaker Tanya Selvaratnam bravely recounts the intimate abuse she suffered from former New York State Attorney General Eric Schneiderman, using her story as a prism to examine the domestic violence crisis plaguing America. When Tanya Selvaratnam met then New York State Attorney General Eric Schneiderman at the Democratic National Convention in July 2016, they seemed like the perfect match.
Both were Harvard alumni; both studied Chinese; both were interested in spirituality and meditation, both were well-connected rising stars in their professionsSelvaratnam in entertainment and the art world; Schneiderman in law and politics. Behind closed doors, however, Tanya’s life was anything but ideal.
Schneiderman became controlling, mean, and manipulative. He drank heavily and used sedatives. Sex turned violent, and he called Tanyawho was born in Sri Lanka and grew up in Southern Californiahis brown slave. He isolated and manipulated her, even threatening to kill her if she tried to leave.
15. The Courage to Heal Workbook: A Guide for Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
Author: by Laura Davis
Published at: Harper Perennial; 1st edition (February 28, 1990)
In this groundbreaking companion to The Courage to Heal, Laura Davis offers an inspiring, in-depth workbook that speaks to all women and men healing from the effects of child sexual abuse. The combination of checklists, writing and art Projects, open-ended questions and activities expertly guides the survivor through the healing process.
Survival SkillsTeaches survivors to create a safe, supportive environment, ask for help, deal with crisis periods, and choose therapy. Aspects Of HealingFocuses on the healing process: gaining a capacity for hope, breaking silence, letting go of shame, turning anger into action, planning a confrontation, preparing for family contact, and affirming personal progress.
Guidelines For Healing SexuallyRedefines the concept of “safe sex” and establishes healthy ground rules for sexual contact.
16. Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
Author: by Susan Forward
Published at: Bantam; Reprint edition (January 2, 2002)
Are you the child of toxic parents? When you were a child… Did your parents tell you you were bad or worthless? Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you? Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?
Were you often frightened of your parents? Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret? Now that you’re an adult… Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child? Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents?
Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money? Do you feel that no matter what you do, it’s never good enough for your parents? In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents and discover a new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.